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Claim Text: Saying “You start” is a simple way to “flip that script,” he added. It signals that you really want to understand where your partner is coming from.
Simplified Text: Advice: Saying 'You start' during a conflict can signal a desire to understand your partner's perspective.
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Claim Maker: James Cordova
Context Type: News Article
Context Details: { "person": "James Cordova", "recommended_phrase": "You start." }
Subject Tags: Psychology Relationships
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Created: September 18, 2026 at 5:05 PM (3 weeks ago)
Last Updated: September 18, 2026 at 5:05 PM (3 weeks ago)

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8 Phrases to Help Your Relationship Thrive

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https://nytimes.com/2025/09/12/well/family/couples-therapy-argument-phrases.html

Couples therapists offer eight key phrases that can improve communication and strengthen relationships, even during disagreements. These phrases focus on understanding, empathy, and gratitude.

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