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https://www.nytimes.com/2025/08/28/well/mind/ask-therapist-estranged-mother-funeral.html?campaign_id=18&emc=edit_hh_20250829&instance_id=161530&nl=well®i_id=122976029&segment_id=204892&user_id=b25c5730c89e0c73f75709d8f1254337
A son, estranged from his abusive mother for 13 years, seeks advice on attending her funeral. A therapist suggests focusing on his own needs and what brings peace, rather than obligation.
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- I Cut Ties With My Mother Years Ago. Should I Attend Her Funeral?
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- Son Decides Funeral Attendance After Estrangement
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- A son, estranged from his abusive mother for 13 years, seeks advice on attending her funeral. A therapist suggests focusing on his own needs and what brings peace, rather than obligation.
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Grief Family Relationships Emotional Abuse Death and Dying Therapy Funeral Decisions
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- Lori Gottlieb
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I Cut Ties With My Mother Years Ago. Should I Attend Her Funeral? Ask the Therapist columnist Lori Gottlieb advises a reader who is torn between protecting his peace and paying his respects. By Lori Gottlieb Aug. 28, 2025 I’ve been estranged from my 93-year-old mother for over 13 years, due to a lifetime of verbal and emotional abuse directed at me and, eventually, my wife and children. To protect my family, I severed all contact. Although I attended my father’s funeral, I’m torn about attending my mother’s. Given the immense pain and suffering she’s caused, I’m questioning whether it’s worth attending her funeral. Should I prioritize closure or respect, or simply let go? From the Therapist: It sounds like you made a difficult decision 13 years ago that has served you and your family well. I imagine you came to that choice after much reflection about what it means to love and be loved, what we owe the people who raised us and what kind of respect you and your family deserve to re...
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Simplified: Funerals are more for the living than the dead
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Simplified: Choice about funeral is about your peace not mother's deserving
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Simplified: Do not focus on closure closure rarely comes from single point
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Simplified: Choosing family well-being moves you toward closure
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Simplified: You do not automatically get forgiveness from deathbed confession
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Simplified: Going to mother's funeral does not mean you forgive her
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Simplified: Going to mother's funeral does not mean you respect her
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Simplified: Going to mother's funeral means you showed up for your own reasons
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Simplified: Staying home does not mean you are cruel or vindictive
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Simplified: Staying home means not going was best for your well-being
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Simplified: Consider support if you go to the funeral
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Simplified: Find another way to mark passing if you do not go
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Simplified: Good times do not erase reasons for cutting contact
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Your attendance or absence isn’t a statement about your mother’s parenting or your worth as a son.0.900Simplified: Attendance or absence is not a statement about mother's parenting or your worth
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Simplified: It's a reckoning you became the protagonist creating a new legacy